It is? A loss, I mean. If you meet someone and you don’t like them, do you go home and write a sad entry in your diary:
Dear Diary, I met a real jerk tonight. I didn’t like her at all, yet I feel this void …
No. No, you don’t.
I agree with the first part – it is mostly good when people like you. But assuming it’s a loss if someone doesn’t like you is, frankly, a little narcissistic. Just a little big headed. Just a little you-centric.
I think what we might want to say is this: “If people like me, good, and if they don’t, that’s okay, too.”
Right? Because it is okay if people don’t like me. Or you. Or that guy. It really is. And it’s not at all a loss for them.
And if you truly believe that their life without you is a lesser life, well, then you might lack a little self-awareness and empathy and you might be a little hypersensitive, so I can kinda see why people don’t like you.