My place is a small one-bedroom 496 square-foot apartment that overlooks downtown Vancouver. My kitchen is the size of a small child’s thumb.
Somehow, I can squeeze up to 12 people in for drinks. We are knee-to-knee, but it’s wonderful. I can fit up to eight for dinner, but very thin people only. Regular size folks can only come over in the half-dozen format. And this is my favourite kind of party, sitting around a cozy table picking at food and each other’s brains.
In this case, size doesn’t matter – it’s all about how you get along and the level of stimulating conversation that flows. Therefore, the five musts for an interesting dinner party in a small space are as follows:
5. You must enjoy being in close quarters with other people and not have any phobias about touching each other inappropriately (“Oh – that was your bum. Sorry! Nice bum, though.”).
4. You must not want to share secrets. In the kitchen whispering? The living room is 4cm away. We can hear you. But you never have to raise your voice. (You can if you want to. I do.)
3. You must be open-minded. If you respond to people’s ideas or thoughts by saying “that’s irrelevant,” or you are racist or sexist or a bigot, you fall under the not welcome category.
2. You must be interesting and interested, which means you love talking about and hearing about religion, sex, relationships, politics, technology, pop culture, art, food, etc.
1. And, above all, you must have a good sense of humour. Bring it. Use it. Ham it up.
Do you see how this has nothing to do with food? You can order pizza and have an interesting dinner party. Trendy appetizers and matching napkins aren’t important – people are. Oh, and bring wine.